Real Giving Vs People Pleasing

As Christmas approaches, the spirit of giving permeates the air, and there’s a beautiful energy surrounding it. The natural inclination to give and contribute beyond ourselves is woven into the fabric of who we are, resonating with our fundamental essence and a profound yearing for purpose and connection. We find fulfillment not just in personal gain but in the positive impact we make on the world. However, amid the festive glow, it’s essential to navigate the delicate balance between genuine giving and the pitfalls of people-pleasing.

There’s a line between giving from the heart and doing things just to please others. Real giving feels good inside, while people-pleasing revolves around external expectations, and what others think. People-pleasing happens when you’re trying hard to keep everyone happy, even if it means not taking care of yourself.

The People-Pleasing Paradox:

People-pleasing, in its deceptive allure, often masquerades as a virtue. We strive to make everyone happy, to be liked, accepted, and avoid conflict at all costs. Yet, in the pursuit of pleasing others, we inadvertently betray our own authenticity. The irony is stark: the more we strive to connect with others, the more we find ourselves drifting away from our own soul. It’s a subtle dance, a paradox where the pursuit of external connection can inadvertently lead to an internal disconnection.

The Bankrupt Story:

As this disconnection from our soul deepens, life tends to show up with increasing challenges. It’s almost as if the universe responds to this internal misalignment by presenting obstacles, difficulties, and a general sense of life feeling “harder.” The external struggles often mirror the internal strife, creating a cycle that can be both puzzling and draining. It’s a bankrupt story written by external expectations that often leaves us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from our own light and wisdom.

The High Cost of Approval Addiction:

The addiction to seeking approval is a costly one. It demands constant validation from external sources, creating a dependence that hinders the development of our inner compass. We trade our authenticity for a fleeting moment of external praise, unaware that the true cost is the erosion of our soul’s voice.

The Soul-Disconnect Consequence:

As we become entangled in the web of people-pleasing, our soul becomes a mere spectator rather than the guiding force of our journey. We silence the inner wisdom that speaks of our unique purpose, desires, and boundaries. The result? We end up in relationships that don’t make us happy, sacrificing ourselves in jobs or businesses until there’s nothing of us left. It’s a deep soul disconnect, leaving us feeling lost, unfulfilled, anguished, and living a life that doesn’t align with our true selves.

Breaking Free:

Breaking free from people-pleasing starts with a simple yet profound act: awareness. It’s about recognizing that the seemingly virtuous act of pleasing others can, in reality, be harmful and damaging. It’s a conscious acknowledgement of the toll it takes on our well-being.

The journey to break free is an audacious decision to reclaim control over our lives. It’s a commitment to a life rooted in authenticity, self-love, and alignment with the soul—a life unbound by the constraints of being fake nice. It’s the courage to live genuinely, freely, and true to oneself.

Embracing Authenticity:

Authentic living is a revolutionary act. It requires embracing our imperfections, setting boundaries, and honoring our own needs and desires. By doing so, we reconnect with the essence of our soul, allowing its radiant light to guide us toward a life of purpose, joy, and fulfillment.

The Liberation of Saying “No”:

Learning to say “no” is a powerful declaration of self-love. It’s a boundary-setting act that liberates us from the shackles of people-pleasing. Saying “no” is an affirmation of our authenticity, a step towards reclaiming our soul’s voice, and an acknowledgment that our worth is not contingent on the approval of others.


Breaking free from the people-pleasing paradigm is a journey back to the soul—a return to our power that has been patiently waiting in the wings. I know for myself, there just wasn’t any peace of mind until I chose to put myself first and reconnected back with my Soul Power. The chaotic cycle of running around like a chicken without a head came to an end!

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